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| Guide to Recovering from PTSD Contents Introduction information copyright | What is passive-aggressive behavior? Passive-aggressive behavior is an indirect way of communication (verbal or non-verbal) in which the veteran expresses anger and hostility. It is seem as an ineffective way of communicating with others. Passive-aggressive behavior sends a lot of mixed messages and may create strain in a relationship. It may make others afraid of you and distance themselves from you. Passive-aggressiveness can cause other emotional problems such as depression, anxiety, or anger-management issues if the veteran does not develop healthier ways of communicating his feelings to others. It can also cause conflicts with others, which could lead to emotional as well as physical violence. |
How can I learn to communicate without using passive-aggressive behaviors? There is always room for improving your communication skills. Passive-aggressive behavior will separate you from your family and peers eventually if it hasn’t already. Some passive-aggressive behavior comments are mildly sarcastic, like on sit-coms. Others are seemingly calm and cooperative but belie anger and rage from trauma suffered in the past. It is essential you seek help to discover the cause behind the behavior. Only then can you understand the behavior and seek to change it. It is important to learn to identify triggers to passive-aggressive behaviors and learn to express yourself in a positive and constructive way. Then and only then will your life improve. Physical reactions to passive-aggressive behavior may include headache, increased heart rate, or increased voice volume. It can help you to learn how to assert yourself in a positive, non-aggressive and polite manner in order to get your needs met. Learn to walk away from a situation that causes you to feel threatened and think about an appropriate, mature, response. You will be more apt to be heard when you use effective coping leadership skills. Your Vet Center staff will assist you with finding a group where you can practice your newly learned skills and get feedback in a safe and accepting environment.
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